Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.
Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.
People spend roughly one-third of their life sleeping, which helps the body regenerate and take a rest for the next day. That is why a good night's sleep is a prerequisite for beautiful skin.
◆ Aging Prevention
Hormone injections have become popular as a wonder drug to maintain youth. They are said to delay ageing by supplementing insufficient hormones and thus helping the metabolism. But they need to be injected again and again and cost a lot of money. "Sleeping well has the same effect as powerful hormone injections," says Dr. Han Jin-gyu of the Seoul Sleep Clinic.
While sleeping, the body secretes various hormones including the sleep-inducing hormone melatonin and adrenocorticotropic hormones controlling stress. Of these, the growth hormone is the most important. It is associated with height, but after the growth stage it begins to play other roles, such as helping cells regenerate and relieving stress. Hyaluronic acid, the natural moisturizing factor contained in growth hormone, also helps skin to absorb water molecules. That's why after a good night's sleep skin looks moist and glowing.
◆ Natural Whitening
To have a clear, shining skin people resort to sunblock creams and whitening cosmetics. But without sound sleep it is hard to get desired results. Besides inducing sleep, melatonin also has a whitening effect by hampering the function of pigment cells. But melatonin is not always secreted at a constant level.
The body begins to secrete it as people fall asleep, and it reaches the highest levels around 2 a.m. while people are in deep sleep. Melatonin secretion plunges to meager levels from 5 a.m. to 10 a.m. That suggests that it's better to sleep from 9 p.m. to 3 a.m. if possible. "People are advised to sleep an average 7.5 hours a day.
"But, sleeping that amount of time does not necessarily mean you had a good sleep. Quality is as important as quantity. The proper ratio of duration of a good sleep to that of a light sleep is 3 to 1," Han said. For healthy skin, it is important to have a quality sleep for an adequate amount of time.
◆ Dangers of Oversleeping
After days of not enough sleep people often try to "catch up." But that causes them to start the following day in bad shape with coarse-looking skin and dark circles below the eyes -- the same symptoms that appear after staying up all night. The reason is that oversleeping causes the heart rate to fall and blood to circulate slowly.
Low body temperature prevents the sweat glands and sebaceous glands from functioning smoothly, breaking the balance of moisture and oil in the skin.
Ideally an adult should sleep for an average of seven to eight hours, or at least six hours a day. Sleeping for 10 hours or more can result in unhealthy skin.
It's been one week since Mom went missing.
The family is gathered at your eldest brother Hyong-chol's house, bouncing ideas off each other. You decide to make flyers and hand them out where Mom was last seen. The first thing to do, everyone agrees, is to draft a flyer. Of course, a flyer is an old-fashioned response to a crisis like this. But there are few things a missing person's family can do, and the missing person is none other than your mom. All you can do is file a missing-person report, search the area, ask passersby if they have seen anyone who looks like her. Your younger brother, who owns an online clothing store, says he posted something about your mother's disappearance, describing where she went missing; he uploaded her picture and asked people to contact the family if they'd seen her. You want to go look for her in places where you think she might be, but you know how she is: she can't go anywhere by herself in this city. Hyong-chol designates you to write up the flyer, since you write for a living. You blush, as if you were caught doing something you shouldn't. You aren't sure how helpful your words will be in finding Mom.
When you write July 24, 1938, as Mom's birth date, your father corrects you, saying that she was born in 1936. Official records show that she was born in 1938, but apparently she was born in 1936. This is the first time you've heard this. Your father says everyone did that, back in the day. Because many children didn't survive their first three months, people raised them for a few years before making it official. When you're about to rewrite "38" as "36," Hyong-chol says you have to write 1938, because that's the official date. You don't think you need to be so precise when you're only making homemade flyers and it isn't like you're at a government office. But you obediently cross out "36" and write "38," wondering if July 24 is even Mom's real birthday.
A few years ago, your mom said, "We don't have to celebrate my birthday separately." Father's birthday is one month before Mom's. You and your siblings always went to your parents' house in Chongup for birthdays and other celebrations. All together, there were twenty-two people in the immediate family. Mom liked it when all of her children and grandchildren gathered and bustled about the house. A few days before everyone came down, she would make fresh kimchi, go to the market to buy beef, and stock up on extra toothpaste and toothbrushes. She pressed sesame oil and roasted and ground sesame and perilla seeds, so she could present her children with a jar of each as they left. As she waited for the family to arrive, your mom would be visibly animated, her words and her gestures revealing her pride when she talked to neighbors or acquaintances. In the shed, Mom kept glass bottles of every size filled with plum or wild-strawberry juice, which she made seasonally. Mom's jars were filled to the brim with tiny fermented croakerlike fish or anchovy paste or fermented clams that she was planning to send to the family in the city. When she heard that onions were good for one's health, she made onion juice, and before winter came, she made pumpkin juice infused with licorice. Your mom's house was like a factory; she prepared sauces and fermented bean paste and hulled rice, producing things for the family year-round. At some point, the children's trips to Chongup became less frequent, and Mom and Father started to come to Seoul more often. And then you began to celebrate each of their birthdays by going out for dinner. That was easier. Then Mom even suggested, "Let's celebrate my birthday on your father's." She said it would be a burden to celebrate their birthdays separately, since both happen during the hot summer, when there are also two ancestral rites only two days apart. At first the family refused to do that, even when Mom insisted on it, and if she balked at coming to the city, a few of you went home to celebrate with her. Then you all started to give Mom her birthday gift on Father's birthday. Eventually, quietly, Mom's actual birthday was bypassed. Mom, who liked to buy socks for everyone in the family, had in her dresser a growing collection of socks that her children didn't take.
Name: Park So-nyo
Date of birth: July 24, 1938 (69 years old)
Appearance: Short, salt-and-pepper permed hair, prominent cheekbones, last seen wearing a sky-blue shirt, a white jacket, and a beige pleated skirt.
Last seen: Seoul Station subway
Nobody can decide which picture of Mom you should use. Everyone agrees it should be the most recent picture, but nobody has a recent picture of her. You remember that at some point Mom started to hate getting her picture taken. She would sneak away even for family portraits. The most recent photograph of Mom is a family picture taken at Father's seventieth-birthday party. Mom looked nice in a pale-blue hanbok, with her hair done at a salon, and she was even wearing red lipstick. Your younger brother thinks your mom looks so different in this picture from the way she did right before she went missing. He doesn't think people would identify her as the same person, even if her image is isolated and enlarged. He reports that when he posted this picture of her, people responded by saying, "Your mother is pretty, and she doesn't seem like the kind of person who would get lost." You all decide to see if anyone has another picture of Mom. Hyong-chol tells you to write something more on the flyer. When you stare at him, he tells you to think of better sentences, to tug on the reader's heartstrings. Words that would tug on the reader's heartstrings? When you write, Please help us find our mother, he says it's too plain. When you write, Our mother is missing, he says that "mother" is too formal, and tells you to write "mom." When you write, Our mom is missing, he decides it's too childish. When you write, Please contact us if you see this person, he barks, "What kind of writer are you?" You can't think of a single sentence that would satisfy Hyong-chol.
Your second-eldest brother says, "You'd tug on people's heartstrings if you write that there will be a reward."
When you write, We will reward you generously, your sister-in-law says you can't write like that: people take notice only if you write a specific amount.
"So how much should I say?"
"One million won?"
"That's not enough."
"Three million won?"
"I think that's too little, too."
"Then five million won."
Nobody complains about five million won. You write, We will reward you with five million won, and put in a period. Your second-eldest brother says you should write it as, Reward: 5 million won. Your younger brother tells you to put 5 million won in a bigger font. Everyone agrees to e-mail you a better picture of Mom if they find something. You're in charge of adding more to the flyer and making copies, and your younger brother volunteers to pick them up and distribute them to everyone in the family. When you suggest, "We can hire someone to give out flyers," Hyong-chol says, "We're the ones who need to do that. We'll give them out on our own if we have some free time during the week, and all together over the weekend."
You grumble, "How will we ever find Mom at that rate?"
"We can't just sit tight; we're already doing everything we can," Hyong-chol retorts.
"What do you mean, we're doing everything we can?"
"We put ads in the newspaper."
"So doing everything we can is buying ad space?"
"Then what do you want to do? Should we all quit work tomorrow and just roam around the city? If we could find Mom like that, I'd do it."
You stop arguing with Hyong-chol, because you realize that you're pushing him to take care of everything, as you always do. Leaving Father at Hyong-chol's house, you all head home. If you don't leave then, you will continue to argue. You've been doing that for the past week. You'd meet to discuss how to find Mom, and one of you would unexpectedly dig up the different ways someone else had wronged her in the past. The things that had been suppressed, that had been carefully avoided moment by moment, became bloated, and finally you all yelled and smoked and banged out the door in rage.
When you first heard Mom had gone missing, you angrily asked why nobody from your large family went to pick her and Father up at Seoul Station.
"And where were you?"
Me? You clammed up. You didn't find out about Mom's disappearance until she'd been gone four days. You all blamed each other for Mom's going missing, and you all felt wounded.
Excerpted from Please Look After Mom by Kyung-Sook Shin. Copyright © 2011 by Kyung-Sook Shin. Excerpted with permission by Knopf. All rights reserved.
by KYUNG-SOOK SHIN
The MEANING of the MV is a guy mourning the death of his girlfriend.
Without her, this world is nothing, so the land they’re on is wasteland and uncared for. how without her, this world is colorless, so the whole mv is black and white. how the car drops from the sky, and its “unexpected” but yet expected
(one member turned). how this world is a ball of confusion so the camera kept changing and turning. how the wasteland seems to devour them, yet it’s open to see their vulnerability.(cre:MzHumaira)
For those who are asking what this song is about and dnt understand krn, it is obv. about a girl who died, and the beginning TOP sings 'one girl, moving far away, and the boy sings this song, crying. AND then daesung sings ' I know i can't touch you, i am falling, please grab me, hello'. This song is so much emotions (for those who can understand korean). I hope you guys can thumbs up this for those international fans to read who cant understand korean :). (cre:bonjourbeauty)
at the begining TOP is rapping " A woman is going father away, A man is singing " this means " woman was dead, so, the man is alone singing sadly...
---very sad song.(cre:lovingmofasjsk)
what a unique song (too much pop songs in kpop)
what a unique mv (not the standard dance mvs)
what a unique band (amazing vocals and everything)
they should get more popularity than they are now,too unique to be call idols and too good to be called artises.They are big bang,always there to suprise and makes me smile (cre : chroniclesofervil)
the simplest MV got the most views in the shortest span of tym in KPOP history!~ @Ainsxstar
Well, I'm a hardcore Shawol ... but I don't mind admitting good music of other groups when I hear it. This is DARN good music and I can't seem to get over how simple yet complex this MV is. Like ... gray, black, & white with one shot and STILL able to capture my attention the whole time? Stumbling upon KPop has been nothing but greatness for me so far (cre: u0fo)
HOLY CRAP WHAT AN AMAZING MV! O__O Who directed this?! Good God, the filming! So many different angles and heights of the camera! The way the focus was transfered from member to member. Most of it was filmed in one take, right? No pauses. Wow! Just by looking at this MV.... I may not speak the language, but visuals are universally understood. The lyrics to this song must be very meaningful... Perhaps it is about walking through the ruins after a big heart ache and getting around the open wounds (cre:ely730)
Wearing a suit with white tennis shoes. Haha classic! :D (cre:icedragon2812)
